What’s the quickest way to end exhaustion?

If you’re reading this newsletter, chances are good you feel things on a pretty deep level. Generally, you want to feel happy, and you want people in your life to feel happy, too. When someone is hurting, something hurts inside you, too. You might even say something like: I really feel for them.  

And you mean it. It’s easy to put yourself in another’s shoes. You are a caring, empathetic person in touch with your feelings. A beautiful thing.  

But sometimes, without realizing it, the boundary between your feelings and the feelings of another gets blurred. When this happens, you may carry the emotional pain of another as if it were yours.

It can feel so real and burdensome, that you might forget the problem is not yours. The circumstance is not happening to you, but to another, yet you start acting like it is happening to you. It becomes all you think about and talk about.

Now instead of one person hurting, there are two. Instead of supporting the person without judgment, you’ve jumped in the well of pain with them with no way out. You’re both trapped. All your focus and energy go into thinking and feeling the problem—the problem that is not yours.  And that’s exhausting.

Without meaning to, you’ve strapped the heavy burdens of another onto your own back as if it were yours. It’s not no matter how much you want to carry the load for them. The problem is theirs and they will have to go through it to learn and grow.

So, what can you do to help without exhausting yourself by taking on the problems of others? Try this:

Pretend every problem you’re dealing with is a cardboard box. How many boxes do you have?

Now open each box and examine the contents. What’s inside? Is the box yours or does it belong to someone else?

If it belongs to someone else, set it aside until you’ve gone through every box. How many boxes do you have now? How many problems are actually yours? You’re going to find the number is small. All those other boxes that take up your valuable energy space belong to someone else.     

You are a lovely, empathetic person. You are meant to give support if that feels right to you, but not take on someone else’s burden. That does nothing to help them and only hurts you. It means you believe the other person is incapable of solving their own problems and only you can fix it for them.

None of that is true. It only means you’ve forgotten who you are and who they are as well. You are Source expressing life in human form and so are they. When you remember that first, then you are a ladder helping them out of the pain well.

Many times, you can support another through listening and letting them know you believe in them. You can pray for them by asking for whatever is best and right for them, knowing their soul already knows what that is and is already nudging them toward it.

You can love them without judgment and remember the same Divine force that created the Universe is within them as well. There is no problem too difficult even if you can’t fathom it right now.

You can choose for yourself what you’d find helpful if you were going through the problem they are. Example: I am strong. I am loved and supported. This problem is already solved for me. Since we are all connected as the one God Essence, they will receive the same powerful sentiments as you chose for yourself in the exact same way such as: I am strong. I am loved and supported, and so on. The “I am” makes the statement present and so. 

Support in your best way, but don’t take on the emotional baggage of others. Empathize but stay clear in your mind about whose problem you’re looking at. In that way you’ll be able to respond with action if required and not merely react and create more of what you don’t want.     

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