How to move past self-shame and guilt
Here’s a life fact: No one gets everything right or does the right thing 100 percent of the time. All of us make mistakes, guaranteed. We might not enjoy our problems and challenging experiences, but they can be viewed as opportunities for expansion in depth and wisdom on every level—physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually. Through the handling of our challenges, we learn more about who we are.
But sometimes, when we feel we’ve done something wrong, instead of finding the growth opportunity we go into self-shame and guilt. These emotions aren’t particularly helpful because they set up more blocks that we have to overcome in order to solve the problem.
Here’s a few tips to move past these emotional space holders:
If you make a mistake, or you’re feeling bad about something you did, admit it. Right away. Allow yourself to feel without making yourself wrong. It’s simply a feeling and it will pass by knowing you did the best you could with the information you had and who you were at the time.
Ask yourself: What did I learn? If you permit yourself some neutral objectivity without beating yourself up, you’ll quickly come to see great value in your experience. You now know more than you did before. You’re wiser because you have experience under your belt.
Don’t second guess yourself. If you feel shame or guilt about something you did, close your eyes, put your hands over your heart, take a deep breath and say: I forgive myself. I will do differently next time. Then move forward confidently and try again.
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