What are you willing to do for better relationships?
I hope you had a wonderful Thanksgiving filled with all your favorite foods and people. But I know that’s not always the case when you gather for the holidays. There are times when you prefer not to be around certain people and it can cause stress, resentment, guilt, judgment, and all kinds of anxiety when you are.
Since you can’t control what someone else says or how they act, it’s important to take control of what you can—your thoughts and what you’re willing to do to feel better in situations you’d rather run from.
Here’s a little exercise that works great for transforming negative relationships into positive or neutral ones. This is the template I created for myself to improve a relationship with amazing results. Fill in your own blanks and create your own words for whatever you’re working on:
I’m willing to see that I’m not a victim.
I’m willing to accept that everything that happens in my life is something I’m creating either consciously or unconsciously.
That said, I’m willing to accept that I was unsure of my value and created plenty of opportunity to decide my value.
I’m willing to have a relationship with myself that is in full alignment with who I know myself to be on a conscious level.
I’m grateful to my __________ for playing along with me to create a situation that helped me get clear about my value.
I’m ending the story and any creative methods I’ve used to tell this story including needing my ________ to show up in a certain way.
I’m willing to allow my _______ to have his/her story without any judgments from me.
I’m willing to have a _______ who respects me for who I am.
I’m willing to create good boundaries around what feels right for me and let go of what doesn’t without telling any stories.
If you believe a person is a certain way, then that is the only way they can show up for you. You must be the person who is willing to see the benefit the hurt has brought you, and also willing to allow yourself to have something else.
By telling yourself the same old story about the person, they must show up for you in this way. You are the creator of your reality.
Again, you can only think, feel, say, and do for you. No one else. If you want a different relationship with someone, what are you willing to do/be/have/see/allow? That is where your power for change resides.
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